Around the Cup of Coffee

Me and my vry good friend stay in the same city,but we manage to meet up once in month...huhhh...busy life you see...LoL...
But whenever we meet we spend a quality time(excuse me...not shopping around..).We chit chat hours n hours...until we are tired of talking and then enjoy the silence for a while...
Recently we met up for coffee(thats how this post is titled)...and started our talks with glory...
Suddenly to both of ours surprise we were discussing something serious this time...and yes the topic was "Brain Drain"..
My friend came up with this typical definition "The emigration of a significant proportion of a country's highly skilled, highly educated professional population, usually to other countries offering better economic and social opportunity " ...(yes,you got it right he is preparing for his GRE's)
I was not agreeing with him... (this was not the first time we disagreed)...I came up with my definiton of Brain Drain.After a while I thought about what I spoke and was totally impressed by myself.
I said..."People migrate to foreign countries to acquire global skills and get expertise in their respective fields..this is called "Brain Gain" but this turns into "Brain Drain" only when they don't use this skills for the benefit of their fellow countrymates and most importantly their country ..."(U know sometimes I talk tooo gud...LoL)

Ok, jokes apart this is soo true..Then we both were silent for a while engrossed in this thought...we both had a kind of guilty conscious because being in this corporate field we were so very used to doing services with expectations.Either recognition or hike or promotion..the feeling of selfless service was now nowhere near in our life...
Me and my friend had given a thought on this "Around the Cup of Coffee"..... We are happy that atleast we thought of this at a very early time in life...

What goes Around..Comes Around...

Was watching the interview of Sush..my fav heroine...

She said something that stuck me for a while..

"Life is nothing but evolution...from butterfly to caterpillar then again to butterfly..."

The Circle of Life.

Someone hurts you, and you cant hurt the person back, so you hurt someone else.

Again Circle of Life Geeeeez.

No am not telling you what I do...Everybody has a devil inside them,howmuch ever you hid it...

The world is not fair and Am no angel in it....

Price Tag...

In my recent posts I have described myself as analytical person...sometimes it comes with a price tag..rather a hefty one...

All the free time I keep judging people whom I know and whom I don't know..

I am aware of the fact that I'm also being judged back, but I am not bothered about it.It may sound like being arrogant but the actual fact is,if people who are judging me are those whom I really don't care about then it doesn't really matter what they think about me.I used to get emotional when I'm judged by my family and friends,but now even that doesn't bother me.

When people pass opinions on me I just shrug my shoulders "I am what I am",you cannot do anything to change that...I know very well that I am not perfect, but I believe that I am good.I am happy that I am honest of what I am.

There is a thin line between judging someone and making fun of someone..lemme try to find the appropriate word for this.Yea the word is ridiculed.

People judge others in front of you but when they are joined by a group that judging soon turns into ridiculing...this makes me wonder if you are being ridiculed by someone in some converstaion in some instance.

Is it so easy to make fun of others?Is it so easy to comment on others?Is it so easy to break trust of your friends?..Well frankly speaking I don't have the answer for all these questions...

All I know is..I have seen my friends how they laugh on others infront of me...this makes me fear that how much they laugh about me infront of others.

This is the price I have paid for my hobby of analysing people...Realising the fact...

Such a Long Journey...

We are almost nearing the end of '07...one of the unforgettable year of my life.Many memories to treasure, many lessons which life has taught me...

I was travelling and had ample of time to switch on my virtual time machine and rush back in the lane of memories.

Sometimes only memories is all that we have.Some happier and some that makes your eyes moist...

I wished,I had a real time machine so that I would edit those unpleasent memories...the words which shouldn't have been said...the relations that shouldn't have been broken...I wish I could....

Its been almost 2 yrs I started working(Experiences about my workplace will be stored for later post)...

Earlier days of work,I used to poke fun of people whose lives revolve around their work but gosh slowly me too am inching towards that.Bigger targets,bigger budgets,long working hours blah blah blah...

At times all these was soo very frustating.At times soo fabulous...(wel actually I'm running out of words for the first time)...

Somewhere, between January and December life changed, like never before.

Somewhere, between fiction and reality I told you my story here, in these posts.

Somewhere, between lonliness and crowds I made some good friends, I think.

Somewhere, between office and home the world seemed different, and so did I.

Somewhere, between hope and foolishness I learnt to let go. Painfully.

Somewhere, between ambition and fear I rolled the dice, and didnt lose.

Somewhere, between duty and care you stretched me, too much.

Somewhere, between boredom and adventure I did the things, I never would.

Somewhere, between 'do' and 'do-not',I regretted things, I never could.

Somewhere, between love and friendship some stayed, and some others left.

Somewhere, between words and silences poetry began to make sense.

Somewhere, at the threshold of this year,

I perched on the tower of hindsightlook back and say,

It wasnt all bad or all good.

Look ahead and know, It will be better.

[PS: The poem above is from Casa... ]

The best way to joke is tell truth......

The UN conducted a worldwide survey.

The only question asked was: "Would you please give your honest opinion about solutions to the food shortage in the rest of the world?”
The survey was a huge failure.
In Africa, they didn't know what 'food' meant.
In India, they didn't know what 'honest' meant.
In Europe, they didn't know what 'shortage' meant.
In China, they didn't know what 'opinion' meant.
In West Asia, they didn't know what 'solution' meant.
In South America, they didn't know what 'please' meant.

And in the US, they didn't know what 'the rest of the world' meant.

Chase

Perfection is good until you are only trying to reach it..but if you are obsessed with perfection then you need help...some serious help.

One of my friend had writen a blog on chasing for what she wants(now here peeps out my some-what over analytical mind..wink wink)

I think we always want,what we cannot have..kind of forbidden fruit theory...

We are always in the urge of finding the greener grass not realising that we are standing on the greenest grass ever...

This makes me say that we have stopped getting the feeling of content in relationships,family and we have started looking it in our careers.Its like we are all running in a rat race,chasing for things like perfect job in a perfect company blah blah blah....

And the day we achieve it, the fun of perfection about it is lost...

And mind you the operative word is still perfection here....Strange isnt it...

Whether it is running behind the perfect dream,perfect job,perfect guy or perfect girl...the game planning or the chase for this gives you the actual content than the moment of achievement...because the moment of achievement is just a moment atlast...

All of us fantasize a world and start our rat race to achieve it...

Here I am teaching myself very slowly, that if tommorow I have to let go somethings, I should still be able to survive...

At some point of time in everyones life the fantasy and the reality will converge and should converge...when they converge lot of questions remain unanswered...

But there is always a feeling of content that you asked those questions.... Isnt it??

Summane....

Jine ke liye socha hi nahi da-rd sambalne honge...
Muskuraye tho muskurane ke karz utharane honge..
Muskuravu kabhi tho lagtha hai...
Jaise hotonpe karz rakha hai...

Tujse naraz nahi zindagi hairaan hu mein....

Summane...I felt like writing this song of Masoom...guess what its my hello tune now-a-days :)
Sometimes my somewhat complicated and somewhat over-analytical brain does wierd things...jus like this one....

I write to be honest with myself..which isnt easy...I bet you on that....

Winter of Thoughts....

Weather in Blore is soo very unpredictable....the mornings are foggy and dreamy..the afternoons are warm...

And there are fools like me who find these extremes pleasent...Like Wonderland....

Sunday morning is a feeling of heaven...with a cup of coffee i sit by my window from where the warmth and the light of the pleasent day steps inside my lill house and I look out,see the people...

People about whom I know nothing,nothing about their lives...Lives which now-a-days seems like clock..just ticking around monotonously...Lives which sometimes make me pale...

I pull my arms around me,not because of the chill breeze...but because of the cold thoughts that are rushing my mind.The thoughts that freeze your heart and mind...

I'm waiting for the winter to pass by...this winter of thoughts....

Why???

Straight from the heart....

I miss u.
But how come you dont?
And if you do,how come you never say it?
And if you say it, how come you never say it first?
And if you say it first,how come you never say it enough?
And if you say it enough,how come you never mean it?
And if you mean it,how come you never show it?
And if you show it,how come I never see it?

I miss you.And I know you miss me too.
I hope you knew that too...

Pendulum...

I was wondering actually...about a real difficult question ....
Yes now a days my mind keeps on wondering about wierd topics....
My mind swings like a pendulum between the feeling of being all alone and feeling happy and being a real social animal and having a gala time.....
Two contrast environment and my dual nature....People all around the world fall into three categories
1.Introverts
2.Extroverts and
3.Mixture of the above two....

Now let me wonder where am I in this list....I got my answer...Have you ever gave a thought about this??

Think about it sometime....

Happiness...

Recently i read a blog of my frend on Happiness...
Well yea i was inspired to write about this beautiful feeling...

Happiness is when u realise...I have realised the hard facts of life....Have you???

I had a real long conversation with a frend yestday...which helped me realise...
the true meaning of Friendship....
true meaning of the journey from being a stranger to being a frend....
true meaning of being yourself.....

And i must say...this realisation was a feeling of relief...
Yea....am all set to explore new horizons....
cheers...

Outlook

For everything you have missed, you have gained something else;
And for everything you gain,you lose something else.

It is all about your outlook towards life.You can either regret or rejoice......

So true yet very difficult to inculcate in our life....we keep on regretting every moment for the loos we had in our life and forget to rejoice the present moment....where as the vice-versa is very rare to happen....

Don't let someone become a priority in your life,
When you are just an option in their life....

Relationships work the best when they are balanced.

Well I never understood how a relationship is balanced but if it has to work then it will...
Actually Relationship works, when you don't really have to put an extra effort to make it work...

Over the same sea,over the same winds;
A ship sails in one direction,another in opposite.
It is not the wind that decides which direction the ship goes;
Its the sails;how they are tied and how they are maneuvered.

Similarly its not your fate that decides where your life is going;
Its all about how you take life and where you take it to.